In a Man’s World, by Melissa Foster
Today I have a super special surprise, Melissa Foster is going to be posting here today for her third book launch - Come Back to Me. I'll be reviewing her book next week so I don't want to give too much away, but I will say this, the outlook is positive ;)
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Take it away Melissa -
Who doesn’t love a macho, handsomecharacter? Add a little emotion and you’ve got a winner—you hope.
Creating believable men issomething that I truly enjoy. Having grown up with six brothers in atestosterone-driven world, all I had to do was pull from memories. Wrap thosememories into my daily life with five sons, and the macho, emotional characteris born.
Here’s a gross generality for you,and feel free to slam me, as I’m a blatantly honest person and I write what Ifeel. Males are visceral and females are emotionally driven (author dodgestomatoes as their thrown in her direction). I’ve learned from growing up (andold) with males, that when they’re upset, they let you know why, in veryclear—and not always tactful—ways.
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Growing up in a male-drivenhousehold helped me to understand the differences between male and females. Ialso think that perhaps I am wired more like a male—as I’m very straightforwardand don’t enjoy drama—cutting to the chase will always get you further in mylittle world then hoping I notice something is awry.
There seems to be a downside todeveloping strong male characters—one that I didn’t see coming. I have noissues with bad language when used at appropriate times. Bad words happen—in myhouse, they’re even commonplace among the males (like how I talk about maleslike they’re a different species?). For some unknown reason, curse words have alife of their own. They convey wrath and despair, hatred and can even be usedas qualifiers for happy events.
I’ve discovered recently, though, that not allreaders have the same take as I do on bad language. Some expect bad language tobe left out of emotional scenes all together, while others see the visceralside of those scenes and feel they’re completely appropriate. This is thedownside for me—I have to write what my characters feel, and oftentimes, theyfeel something that only a curse word will convey. I apologize to my readers, because I do carewhat you think and what you enjoy reading, but ultimately I have to be true tomy characters, and saying, “That darn guy,” simply doesn’t cut it when a guy isangry.
Tell me readers, what’s your takeon curse words in books?
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Melissa Foster is a Bestselling Kindle Author and mother to 6. You can find her Website, Facebook, Twitter, and FB Fanpage by clicking the links. Come Chat at The Women's Nest parat of the WoMen's Literary Cafe, Where readers and authors unite! (for men & women)
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Comments
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Please take a look at this short story:
http://clarkesworldmagazine.com/johnson_10_09/
It won a Nebula award, was nominated for a Hugo, and was a 2010 Locus Award finalist.
It explains perfectly how I feel about cursing through example. Yes, I would like to win a Nebula. I think that would be quite an honor.
Ironic that you prefer to write about men. I prefer to write about women. Maybe that's because I raised a wonderfully loving but very strog daughter.
Dav, you point out something very important. I grew up a around the GD saying, so it rings aloud in my head when I write angry men, and I am trying to quell that in future books, although from a reality point, it's said, and sometimes it's just about the only thing that fits. I hope, though, you realize it's fiction, and you don't judge the author by that language. My characters curse--not a lot, only when appropriate (boy that sounds funny!), but they don't reflect me:-) My books do sometimes have an F-bomb in them, so you might want to steer clear. It's not used often, but yes, it has been used.
Lindsey, loved the reality behind cursing too much can date a book. So true and I hadn't even thought about that.
Michael, I'll look at your short story. Congrats on your special notes!
Jenny, thank you for hosting me here today. xox
Interesting post!
Congratulations on the book. Hope you both have a Happy Thanksgiving.
Excellent analysis of males and females!
Christa, I had to laugh because I once tried to read my scenes using "frick" and "darn it" and my kids roared with laughter.
Melissa - power to the sisters!